Create your own life filled with memories

Create your own life filled with memories

When I turned 25th, my dad sent me a text message: The first 25 years you learn, the next 25 years you gain experiences, the next 25 years you share your wisdom and the last 25 years you live of your memories. Make sure you have lots of them to go back to. I loved the text at the time and truly it made an impression on me. Today, several years later, I agree with the statement only to a certain point. I think that we all learn all our life and also can share our wisdom all our life. We need to be open to receive and give and that’s also true about the experiences and wisdom we share with the world. Let’s have a look at little kids. How much life experience do they have? What can they teach us? For example – their honesty, the purity of their expression, the spontaneous and exciting approach to life, the...
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Everything happens for a reason

Everything happens for a reason

Life happens. Does it happen to you too? Yes, I guess so! Sometimes we feel like we are rolling and there’s nothing that can stop us. That’s such a wonderful time and everything goes so well and smoothly, no effort required to accomplish tasks and do things. Our energy is high. Sometimes, the right opposite happens and we drag, nothing goes according to our plans, we feel tired, exhausted, the energy is low, we don’t know where to turn and what to do. We feel like we’re in a hole and can’t seem to see a ladder to climb out on to. People tell us “You have to stay positive” but it’s so hard! So what to do and what’s happening? Well, everything happens for a reason! There is a lesson we should learn. There is a nugget of wisdom, the guarding angels want us to learn a lesson. And sometimes, it takes us a long time to get the message....
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Not good enough?!

Not good enough?!

I feel like we all are fighting with this feeling of “I am not good enough”. It’s haunting us like a shadow – wherever we are, wherever we go… It’s somewhat at the back of our minds and when we don’t want to hear it, the gremlin of “Not good enough” jumps out over and over again. So what is it?! I can’t explain it better than Brene Brown in her book The gifts of imperfections. It’s one of my favourite books for sure! Yes, when I read it the first time I felt like I identified with every sentence she wrote! It’s scary but also comforting that I wasn’t alone! We all feel like that! Maybe not at all times but here and there! So what helped me to get over the strong “I am not good enough”? Many things – reading and exploring psychological books on this topic. Digging deep with a help of a psychologist and figuring...
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Sharing is caring aka Practice Aloha daily

Sharing is caring aka Practice Aloha daily

I just spent 2 weeks in Hawaii with my husband and my daughter. We had a fabulous time! And you’re asking – you better, you were in Hawaii! Yes, true, apart of the obvious things I love about this place – weather, water, beach, greenery, fresh food … I love the expressions from the native Hawaiian language and how they translate into today’s world. I saw a bumper sticker which said: Practice Aloha daily. I loved it but haven’t seen it so decided to create my own – thus the theme picture ? Nevertheless. What does Aloha mean?! It’s not just Hello and Bye, it’s a way to live your life – with love, peace and compassion. Your heart is overflowing with the ability to influence others around you with your spirit. And I do want to live like this every day! I want to have a positive impact on my own way how I live and how I influence my...
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How to choose the right coach for you

How to choose the right coach for you

Are you finally in for a coach and have no idea how to choose one? Should you go with the person your friend had a good experience with or shall you shop around like with anything else? Shall you read coach’s reviews and rely on them or what shall you do? Well, here’s a piece of a guidance and a few questions you should ask yourself… 1. What are you expecting from a coaching relationship? What do you want to achieve while working with a coach? Do not expect that your goal or issue will be resolved during the sample session which is usually no longer than 30 minutes. There is a reason why the relationship is at least 3-6 months! You as a client need to do the work, the exploring, the digging deep! 2. How do you know the coach you just had a sample session with is the right person for you? Check if you feel comfortable talking to...
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Resistance to change and building bridges

Resistance to change and building bridges

Life’s not always an easy ride. Whether we want or not, nothing really stays the same. Whether it’s at work or at home. Even ourselves are constantly changing! Not talking about aging! We are getting new inputs, new experiences, new opinions and it all shapes our life. We constantly have to make decisions. Some are easy, some are more difficult, some are even scary! So how to think about those scarier ones? Ask yourself – what are you afraid of? What’s holding you back? What’s the scariest thing that can happen? Think about decisions and life changes like bridges. When you step on a bridge, sometimes, you don’t know what exactly is on the other side! You may feel it’s something more exciting, more challenging, less comfortable and more like what you want. But there’s a glitch – you are scared to cross the bridge! And that’s OK! Are you scared of the unknown?! Calm down, we all are! It’s...
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The damn FEAR!

The damn FEAR!

Who isn’t fearful sometimes?! Or all the times?! What’s in our way when we really want something and the gremlin in the head keeps telling us – you’re not good enough, you can’t do it, that’s too much, no one’s gonna like it etc. It’s fear. Who’d have though it can be a good thing?! Am I not making sense?! Look at this: Fear in it’s core is a good thing. It protects us from danger. That’s its primary function! So if we had no fear, it’s actually life threatening! Now – when the fear gets overpowering, it’s holding us back. It keeps us away from progressing, expanding, learning, growing, etc. What a shame?! So what shall we do? 1. First – Switch the perspective from the bad fear to the good fear. Take the “what’s good about it” perspective and find the kernel of the truth for the fear. Ask yourself – What shall I learn about the situation? 2. Then –...
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Happy New Year!

Happy New Year!

It’s here again, Happy New Year! It’s the time of the year to reflect on the learning from 2017 – not just say – “finally it’s over!” but ask yourself – What did I learn? What did the year give me? What shall I stop doing or start doing differently? – It’s a new year, new start, new challenge, new unknowns ahead of us. We can approach the new year with the intention of making a difference, making an impact – on ourselves, on our family, friends or others. I like this motivation quote I got from a coaching friend of mine - Every new day is another chance to change your life. We can take it to the next level and say – Every NEW YEAR is another chance to change your life. And it is! I personally don’t like new year’s resolutions but I like whole life intentions. So why don’t approach the 2018 with the intention to...
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The mystery of meditation

The mystery of meditation

Alright, meditation is not a mystery but sounds pretty mysterious! At least for those who never tried to meditate and only saw the zen-like pictures of meditating individuals. I purposely chose the blog picture to reflect the well-known fact. There are so many articles out there that describe the benefits of meditation. I have recently posted a very interesting article on my Facebook page. Yes, worth reading too! ? Today with the technology, the doctors can really observe how new neuropathways are being created in the meditator’s brain, how this brain reacts to positive and negative emotions and much more. Personally, I can truly say that meditation helps me to recharge my inner batteries. 15-20 minutes a day feels like an extra hour of sleep, or even more! But sometimes, it can be really hard and challenging to stick to the routine and carve out those 15-20 min a day to do the practice. My clients have the same concerns...
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Let’s ride a bike together

Let’s ride a bike together

What actually is coaching? I have been trying to explain to my friends and family what I am so passionate about! And I realized, I am struggling to tell people what coaching actually is! How can I serve and how can I spread the happiness and love when I can’t articulate what I am able to give to the world?! After a very pleasant discussion with my friends, one of them said “So that actually means that everyone can really use a coach because everyone has something to work on, improve at or reach towards, right?!” And I said: “Right” with a smile on my face. And my friend said: “That’s cool!” So what is it?! The simplest analogy is with a bike. You want to ride a bike. If you hired a therapist, she’d ask: What’s your relationship with a bike? What’s your past experience with the bike? If you hired a consultant, she would say: Let me ride the...
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